FACT: UFO sighting. A flying saucer crossed the galaxy, scanned Kev with a beam and filed its verdict out the window: NAHH. If you’re learning how to be okay with not being liked, you’re in good company.
fact
nahh
(verdict)
What the aliens said. Being passed over isn’t a measurement of you; not everyone’s your people.
Why not being liked stings so much
Humans are wired to belong, so a no from anyone can register like a small emergency, even from people you’d never pick yourself. Not being liked feels like a verdict. Usually it’s just a mismatch: different taste, different timing, different planet. You’re not everyone’s cup of tea, and that’s how you find the people who actually drink tea.
What would a stoic do?
We all love ourselves more than other people, but care more about their opinion than our own.
Marcus Aurelius, Meditations 12.4
Marcus noticed the same glitch nearly 1,900 years ago. Other people’s approval is outside your control; your character isn’t. Put your effort there.
Try this: 3 steps after a nahh
- Separate the scan from the scanner. Their verdict says more about their criteria than your worth.
- Ask one fair question. Is anything in it useful? Keep that; drop the rest.
- Go where you’re already liked. The ones who are your people don’t need a scan.
Send this to whoever’d get abducted with you. meow meow, kev
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